Choosing yourself

What is it that you truly want? Is it love, happiness, money, career, fame, peace freedom...? What have you been doing to get it? Have you written down your intention, been clear on your goals and decided to persevere no matter what?

Whatever it is that you have your heart set on, the most important thing is consciously deciding to choose yourself every day without fail. Your intention, purpose, your goals will most likely change in some way when you grow, evolve, alter your beliefs and continually peel away everything that doesn’t serve you, anything that is not your Truth.

It makes me smile now how much I have changed over the years and with it my goals, my mission and purpose. I still remember thinking that a peaceful, quiet and uneventful life was what I wanted or needed. So many really challenging experiences and situations had happened in my life that I yearned for peace and quiet. I wasn’t a fan of changes, I was good at planning, striving, working really hard and stressing and I honestly thought that a life without problems, changes and surprises was the answer for me. How wrong was I? Completely! A quiet, uneventful life devoid of challenges might sound nice in theory but in practice, it would get boring very quickly. I didn’t come to this life to lie down and do nothing. I came here to grow and evolve, to let go of everything that doesn’t serve me, anything that is not love. Growth is impossible without challenges. What I really wanted back then without properly realising it and what is still very important to me now is internal peace. That is something that is developed when you go within, when you continually decide to work on yourself, never give up and keep letting go of everything that doesn’t serve you, not out of fear but from and with love.

Internal peace comes when you step into your power, when you trust and surrender to who you truly are, to love.

When you persevere and choose yourself every day all answers are revealed to you at the right time. I used to think that I wasn’t good enough, that I had to work really hard to become somebody else, to be kinder, better, more loving, worthy..., the list goes on. I looked outside of me for answers and paid too much attention to what other people said, did and believed about me, about God and about the world. I had so many things backwards, but that is perfectly ok, it is fine not to know everything, it is ok to make mistakes as they are an essential part of our journey. We can’t learn and grow without making mistakes.

What makes me proud when I look at my life, where I chose to be born, the circumstances, the challenges, the crippling fear and later terrible, often overpowering anger, is that I never gave up on myself. Not really. Sometimes I took more time to do something than I should have, sometimes I doubted myself, sometimes I spent too much time in a place that wasn’t good for me or trusted people who didn’t have my best interest at heart, who weren’t true, but I always carried on. All of that was an important part of my journey, of my growth. I truly am grateful for everything and everybody in my life, especially those that pushed my buttons the most. They helped me see what I needed to change in myself. Without them I wouldn’t be the person that I am now.

It is true that being in a midst of a challenge can feel daunting, sometimes even overwhelming, like there is no way out. That’s why working on getting to really know yourself, connecting with who you really are, liking and eventually loving yourself every day is so very important. The love and trust towards yourself that you develop every time you refuse to give up on yourself is invaluable. The more you know and love yourself, the more you are going to choose yourself no matter what situation arises.

Every time you choose yourself, when you decide to love yourself despite the problems, your love is going to be matched and magnified by Source that is always there with you, that loves you unconditionally. Love and guidance are always available to you when you choose it, when you choose yourself, when you choose love. It is important however to understand that you have to choose to let it in as without your permission, without your trust and surrender, Source and your guides cannot and will not overpower your free will that you decided to have in this life.

The more you grow, then the more love you become and the more you understand how loved and guided you always are. You realise that the challenges are for your betterment which makes it much easier to navigate through them.

Choosing yourself does not mean walking over people, stabbing them in the back, being mean or cruel.

Choosing yourself means stepping into your power, being loving, kind and most of all authentic.

If you do not know where to start, make a decision to spend some time every day building a relationship with yourself, getting to know yourself and connecting to who you really are, to your Truth. Find a place where you are not going to be disturbed and make sure that you are not in a hurry. You do not need to have hours to do that. Even spending five minutes every day with yourself is better than nothing. Close your eyes, put your hand on your heart and pay attention to your breath. Slow your breathing down and focus on positive emotions like love, joy or gratitude. Choose something that is going to be easy for you to feel in that moment, something that is going to feel good. If that is proving difficult, please think of a situation or a place that makes you feel safe and happy. If nothing comes to your mind, create it yourself. Putting a hand on your heart is very powerful and helps you connect to love much quicker. You can do it wherever you are, however many times you want, even if only for a few seconds. Practicing gratitude every day will also help you change your emotions more easily in the face of a challenge.

The more often you take time for yourself, the more you are going to deepen the connection with Source and the more love you will feel towards yourself, towards life and towards others.

Whether you decide to allocate some time to yourself every day or choose to do nothing, the decision is always yours to make. Your life is your choice.

Please remember that nobody is going to choose you, only you can make a decision to choose yourself.

Every day is a new beginning and it is never too late to make a decision to start building a relationship with yourself or keep making it stronger. You are more powerful and much more resilient than you think. Go to your heart, connect to love and start living your life with love, joy, confidence, freedom and authenticity 💜