Unconditional love

Is it possible to love yourself, your life and other people unconditionally? Yes, provided we recognise that unconditional love among humans differs from the unconditional love of Source.

Source's love remains unwavering and pure. There is never any judgment or blame.

All of us are extensions of Source’s energy. However, by choosing to become human beings and actively participate in this thing called life on Earth, we forget our true nature. This is a world of duality where it is easy to feel separate from who we truly are and move to fear. Even when we start to understand that we are love and do our best to change unwanted patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving, we make mistakes. We do not lead isolated lives or devote all our time solely to meditation; rather, we interact with others and encounter various challenges. That is completely normal and that is why we are here - to experience, grow and evolve.

I have spent many years going back to love, changing and healing everything that doesn’t serve me. Although that won't stop, I recognize how much I've grown and achieved. So many of us focus on lack and mistakes instead of noticing the progress. I used to struggle with anxiety and anger. Judgment of myself and my life, of what I was doing or not doing and blame of other people were constantly present in my life. I can’t say that I am completely free from everything that is not love in me, nor will I ever be as a human being, however, through years of meditation and never giving up on myself, I can honestly say that I came to love myself. Do some days feel harder? Yes. At those times, I look at my thoughts and feelings, do not escape from them, but check what lies underneath them. Sometimes we think that we overcame something that wasn’t good for us, only to notice that it has come back. This should not be regarded as grounds for criticism; instead, it reflects our readiness to examine the underlying pattern in greater depth. We cannot change anything that we are not aware of, so every time we are, that is a victory.

Whenever life seems overwhelming or challenging, it is important for me to recognise that I do not exist on my own but I am interconnected with all things and beings on Earth, thinking, feeling and acting in a certain way and so it is crucial that I do my very best to be more gentle and understanding towards myself. Some days are easier than others, but I am determined to continue to love myself more every day instead of living in fear, lack, judgment and blame.

In Sheila and Marcus Gillette’s book “The Art of Relationship: Discover the Magic of Unconditional Love” Theo defines unconditional love as a state of confidence, the ability and knowing that one can deal with anything that presents itself in their life.

Unconditional love starts with oneself as one cannot give something to another that they do not give themselves.

Do you love yourself? Truly? A lot of us seem to settle for mediocrity being content with merely tolerating themselves, their family, partner and friends and getting the same back from their loved ones. Everybody is in the same boat, so that is fine, isn’t it? It can certainly be enough for many people, but it has never felt like that to me. Everybody is different, which is marvellous and everybody has the right and power to choose how they want to live their lives. If you’re unsatisfied with things and want more love for yourself and your life, decide to change. It is as simple as that. You do not need money, tons of time or special power to be able to make that choice. Anything that you will use to delay the process is simply an excuse. Whatever you decide, know that it is fine, however, it has never been easier to change than now because so many of us on Earth are currently doing it.

Would you prefer to cultivate more love in your life now, or simply wait for a chance in another lifetime? If you are not willing to wait, commit fully and begin changing anything in yourself that isn't love.  

How would your life change if you started loving yourself? Close your eyes. Feel it, see it, become one with it.

What if you never make that decision to change and miss on experiencing more love in your life? What could that cost you? What could you lose?

Imagine if today was your last day on Earth? Would you be happy to go? Would you feel content and satisfied?

What would your relationships be like if true, unconditional love underpinned them? Isn’t that something worth working for by changing yourself?

When you are with somebody who also loves themselves unconditionally, you can touch Source together and infinitely expand your love. The amazing thing about love is that there is always more of it to experience. One person connected to Source is more powerful than millions that are not. Imagine what two people united in pure love can do.

I would like to share something with you that happened to me recently during a group online meditation. It is not something that can be completely understood using our human mind and so it is fine if it doesn’t make sense to you and/or you disagree with it. During the meditation Source told me “You are perfect. You should be proud of everything”. In my thoughts I immediately went “What?” thinking about all the things I did wrong. In my heart however, I knew it was the truth. My human self couldn’t comprehend it, but my true self did. We are divine beings who decided to come here to experience all there is. We knew exactly what we signed up for. We are all connected, each here for a unique experience, and we support one another in achieving it. We have soul contracts with others and incarnate together with our soul family. It is those who love us the most that would help us achieve something that in human standards is deemed atrocious. Everything we do matters, even if we believe it’s insignificant or flawed. It is all perfect.

When I heard Source’s words and immediately thought about all the things I did wrong in my life, I was judging myself. I wasn't showing myself unconditional love. We are here to experience all there is and to add those experiences to the whole. When we begin to realise the meaning of these words, we will become more determined to live our lives based in love.

We are powerful creators of our lives. Our soul selected this life, identity, and experiences intentionally. We are not victims. Nobody is. We can only treat ourselves like one. Once we understand that, then we can look at ourselves, our lives and other people differently and take responsibility. 

Be love and send love without any expectations. 

Love doesn’t hurt. Loving, expressing love, being love is the most wonderful thing we can do. Withholding love, not expressing or not being able to express yourself and be who you truly are, that is what really hurts. I know very well what that feels like.

Whenever you choose love, you change yourself and your life in the most miraculous ways. Your love always has a positive impact on everything and everyone in your life.

You matter. Your love matters. So be courageous and begin to love yourself and your life unconditionally 💜